This morning i had extra time to spare before going in to work so i stopped at the local deli and ordered an egg sandwich. I go there often, as most around here do, and they know me mostly because of Miyagi usually being in my arms. If i go in without him, they want to know where he is. Anyway, any single women looking to meet men - go into your local deli in the morning when all the workmen are on their break and getting their breakfast. Trust me. Do it. If you like that kind of man it's a candy store.
This morning I felt like the special. This hasn't happened to me in a while which is why I can now say with proof that attractiveness is in your attitude and how you hold yourself. Mike makes me feel gorgeous. He never stops telling me, and touching me, and putting me first. Now, should self satisfaction come from someone on the outside telling us? Maybe not. Of course not. HOWEVER, to have a man look at me the way he does and treat me the way he does..........lets say its hard to have a down day. That vibe gets carried with me and this morning i noticed the results.
Isn't that a fucker? When i was single and looking it wasn't until i gave up and stopped caring that i finally met the right man. It's that not caring thing, that attitude that you are fine with yourself that gets the kind of attention you have forgotten to care about. Twisted right? But true.
Which brings me to therapy. If you are feeling down on yourself or like your life is too heavy to carry- go get therapy. Don't waste valuable time. Not only get therapy but take the time and be discriminating in who you choose to stay with - you must trust your therapist. You must "click" and not everyone is going to with every therapist. I've met a few that I think are wonderful people, but who just didn't work for me in a way that i didn't know i even needed.
Of course i'm partially in love with my therapist because she's that good. She was recommended to me, and that is always a good place to start. But like I said, someone who is perfect for another person may not be your match. So be patient and look around. It's worth your mental health, and the therapist is not going to have hurt feelings.
Someone recently told me that they felt stirred up and angry when they left their sessions and that it took a week to calm down and then they were back at therapy to be stirred up yet again.
I'm not an expert, but this is NOT what therapy is about. There is not truth to "no pain no gain" with mental health. That is bullshit. And we shouldn't pay for bullshit. (although, i'm told that there are scientists paying for human feces in Africa.....but that is a different story for another time) Yes, you may feel emotional during a session and probably will for most, but a good therapist is not going to send you back out into the world as a walking wound. Therapy is about healing. Not wounding. You should feel lighter, freer, have a better understanding of yourself - at least a glimmer, when you leave that office. If you feel like hell when you leave, PLEASE find another therapist.
I'm not saying you should have rainbows shooting out of your ass. I'm saying, you should feel empowered.
And on THAT note, I was listening to Howard Stern this morning and he was talking about the whole Louis C.K thing, with him whipping out his penis and masturbating in front of women who were not asking for that - how he has apologized and how his career is most likely over.
I call bullshit. This is a situation where black and white thinking is nothing but a limitation for small minds.
Have you heard his stand up? Have you watched his shows? His interviews? He's probably one of the most genuinely unperfect men on the planet. And he knows it. He's made his living off of it. We've cheered him along until he proved it. I have many different feelings regarding this because he is my favorite stand up, i've had an adult crush on him for years and yes, it started because he is a ginger BUT I also find him smart, sharp, honest and funny as hell.
But he whips his dick out at unsuspecting women when i'm sure there is no shortage of WILLING and like minded ladies. That tells me, (again i'm no expert) that the thrill for him is in making women uncomfortable. That bothers me.
Any time a woman feels assaulted she has a right to her feelings whether or not someone else thinks its assault or not. IF you haven't ever personally felt assaulted then you should probably shut up and wait your turn before you speak. If you are a woman, you will definitely have this experience at least once in your lifetime. Maybe not a masturbater, maybe not a groper, or a rapist - there are unfortunately many ways for a woman (and men) to feel assaulted. There's no confusing the feeling when you have it happen to you. You know.
Should his career end because this happened? Not when it was built on his talking about his constant masturbation. Thats a huge contradiction to sit in an audience and laugh about his problem and then call him a pervert when he acts like one. I don't think i need to point out, as others have, our President admits to grabbing women by the pussy. Who's going to be shocked when he does. again. ehem. This behavior did not deter him from becoming the leader of the free world.
I think our standards are changing, rightfully so. Our consistency needs to be checked and put into line. Women (people, living things, etc) should not be assaulted. Period. By anyone. famous or not, rich or not, celebrity or not. Our standards need to stretch out across the board, from the President to the United States to the crack head who beats his wife. The rules of decency do not apply to SOME, they apply to all.
Those rules need to be set in stone. I said it. If a man whipped his dick out in front of me and i did not want him to, i would leave. (okay i might punch him first, or call him names or whatever but leaving would be part of it for sure) That's me. Another woman may feel shattered instead of pissed off. Thats a big chance to take for a man isn't it? One feels assaulted and like she has been violated and the other is just angry and left you to your business.
Who is right? Who gets to determine that?
What is a turn on, turn off to one may be assault to another.
Risky to drag your dick out, eh? Maybe better to keep it in your pants until you are invited. I'd say. But that's just me.
Do i have a solution? Play nice. Be respectful. Be aware of who you are playing with. Get help for your problems.
Respect yourself, and if you can't - go get therapy. And then go get an egg sandwich and watch how people respond to you.
Like i said several times - i'm not expert.
This morning I felt like the special. This hasn't happened to me in a while which is why I can now say with proof that attractiveness is in your attitude and how you hold yourself. Mike makes me feel gorgeous. He never stops telling me, and touching me, and putting me first. Now, should self satisfaction come from someone on the outside telling us? Maybe not. Of course not. HOWEVER, to have a man look at me the way he does and treat me the way he does..........lets say its hard to have a down day. That vibe gets carried with me and this morning i noticed the results.
Isn't that a fucker? When i was single and looking it wasn't until i gave up and stopped caring that i finally met the right man. It's that not caring thing, that attitude that you are fine with yourself that gets the kind of attention you have forgotten to care about. Twisted right? But true.
Which brings me to therapy. If you are feeling down on yourself or like your life is too heavy to carry- go get therapy. Don't waste valuable time. Not only get therapy but take the time and be discriminating in who you choose to stay with - you must trust your therapist. You must "click" and not everyone is going to with every therapist. I've met a few that I think are wonderful people, but who just didn't work for me in a way that i didn't know i even needed.
Of course i'm partially in love with my therapist because she's that good. She was recommended to me, and that is always a good place to start. But like I said, someone who is perfect for another person may not be your match. So be patient and look around. It's worth your mental health, and the therapist is not going to have hurt feelings.
Someone recently told me that they felt stirred up and angry when they left their sessions and that it took a week to calm down and then they were back at therapy to be stirred up yet again.
I'm not an expert, but this is NOT what therapy is about. There is not truth to "no pain no gain" with mental health. That is bullshit. And we shouldn't pay for bullshit. (although, i'm told that there are scientists paying for human feces in Africa.....but that is a different story for another time) Yes, you may feel emotional during a session and probably will for most, but a good therapist is not going to send you back out into the world as a walking wound. Therapy is about healing. Not wounding. You should feel lighter, freer, have a better understanding of yourself - at least a glimmer, when you leave that office. If you feel like hell when you leave, PLEASE find another therapist.
I'm not saying you should have rainbows shooting out of your ass. I'm saying, you should feel empowered.
And on THAT note, I was listening to Howard Stern this morning and he was talking about the whole Louis C.K thing, with him whipping out his penis and masturbating in front of women who were not asking for that - how he has apologized and how his career is most likely over.
I call bullshit. This is a situation where black and white thinking is nothing but a limitation for small minds.
Have you heard his stand up? Have you watched his shows? His interviews? He's probably one of the most genuinely unperfect men on the planet. And he knows it. He's made his living off of it. We've cheered him along until he proved it. I have many different feelings regarding this because he is my favorite stand up, i've had an adult crush on him for years and yes, it started because he is a ginger BUT I also find him smart, sharp, honest and funny as hell.
But he whips his dick out at unsuspecting women when i'm sure there is no shortage of WILLING and like minded ladies. That tells me, (again i'm no expert) that the thrill for him is in making women uncomfortable. That bothers me.
Any time a woman feels assaulted she has a right to her feelings whether or not someone else thinks its assault or not. IF you haven't ever personally felt assaulted then you should probably shut up and wait your turn before you speak. If you are a woman, you will definitely have this experience at least once in your lifetime. Maybe not a masturbater, maybe not a groper, or a rapist - there are unfortunately many ways for a woman (and men) to feel assaulted. There's no confusing the feeling when you have it happen to you. You know.
Should his career end because this happened? Not when it was built on his talking about his constant masturbation. Thats a huge contradiction to sit in an audience and laugh about his problem and then call him a pervert when he acts like one. I don't think i need to point out, as others have, our President admits to grabbing women by the pussy. Who's going to be shocked when he does. again. ehem. This behavior did not deter him from becoming the leader of the free world.
I think our standards are changing, rightfully so. Our consistency needs to be checked and put into line. Women (people, living things, etc) should not be assaulted. Period. By anyone. famous or not, rich or not, celebrity or not. Our standards need to stretch out across the board, from the President to the United States to the crack head who beats his wife. The rules of decency do not apply to SOME, they apply to all.
Those rules need to be set in stone. I said it. If a man whipped his dick out in front of me and i did not want him to, i would leave. (okay i might punch him first, or call him names or whatever but leaving would be part of it for sure) That's me. Another woman may feel shattered instead of pissed off. Thats a big chance to take for a man isn't it? One feels assaulted and like she has been violated and the other is just angry and left you to your business.
Who is right? Who gets to determine that?
What is a turn on, turn off to one may be assault to another.
Risky to drag your dick out, eh? Maybe better to keep it in your pants until you are invited. I'd say. But that's just me.
Do i have a solution? Play nice. Be respectful. Be aware of who you are playing with. Get help for your problems.
Respect yourself, and if you can't - go get therapy. And then go get an egg sandwich and watch how people respond to you.
Like i said several times - i'm not expert.
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