Is this love, that i'm feeling......Is this the love that i've been searching for?

 Lyrics.  HAHAHAHAHA

I'm not feeling any love for any man aside from my family and friends.  

Ex bf reached out last night out of the clear blue.  I had sent him a few random texts over the past couple of months and he never responded.  I felt a little bitchy about bothering to respond to him this time.

Maybe next time i won't.

I hate it when i sent out messages and get no responses.  

Its the least invasive way to be in someones life and if even THAT is too much for them........well, know your place MB.

Aside from that yesterday i noticed that i hadn't heard from L all day.  Then a text late in the day saying he just got back (I knew he was going on an all day ride with his club) and i responded with "cool :) "  Not going to ask, he's going to have to fill in the blanks. I can get used to this not doing all the work job.

Worked on a few projects and binge watched the Show Widows Bay .....have to finish the last episode today because i couldn't keep my eyes open it was late.  How that show is listed as a comedy is beyond me.  It IS very funny but also very creepy and scary.  Loved it.  Kind of reminds me of American Horror Story's first season.  So different, and original. 

Lots of work to hopefully do today if i get what i need from the PITA.

random

 This morning i decided today is a lazy day.  No big projects, no major cleaning, no leaving the house.  Just do whatever and not feel any "have to's"....no phone. It's currently 3:30pm and i've been up since 5am so i'm going to say i succeeded.  I have accomplished nothing of note to anyone but myself.

Score.

I watched "the ghost and Mrs. Muire" by accident.  Was flipping through channels and remembered really loving this movie when i saw it as a preteen.  It's a classic, black and white.....so many thing struck me that i'm sure didn't the first time i watched it.  I still love it, but for different reasons.  It's okay to love something differently when you know more.  

One thing that made me laugh was the scene on the beach, with the little beach huts they used to use.  Walking up into it, then down the other side into the water, holding a long rope.  I wish they still had that damn rope.  I'd go into the water a lot more and i'd have a fighting chance of getting out quickly.  The bathing suits women used to wear......with stocking and shoes.....that i don't mind skipping.

Also, the audacity of men and and how women were spoken to.  I can't imagine.  Funny thing is the men haven't changed much in my opinion.  It's women that have changed.  And not in a bad way.  Unless you are asking a man of course.

A couple of weeks ago i purchase a reading from a man i follow on TikTok.  $35 for a personalize 5 card spread and you ask your question.  He was sick and reached out to me to let me know he was behind and why, we went back and forth a few times and he has a great vibe.  Younger guy, swears a lot in his readings, very direct.....i'm a fan. I like his style.  Today i checked my personal email and he had sent the reading.  SO Entertaining!  

Basically said the same thing i've been thinking.......live my life, stop looking and trying, stop overthinking BUT don't lose an common sense i have.....the dating thing needs a rest.  Just live my life.  My full, and happy life.  Not giving up on love, just not agressively pursuing it.

That said, L came over last night.  We watched the John Wick movies and chatter boxed through them.  We get along, he's a nice kisser and fun to make out with.  I'm just not feeling "it".  Whatever "it" is.  I'm not looking to cut him off, we both were in agreement about timing and all that........Just letting it roll.  Maybe this is how it's done.

Craft area is all set up, i started Jens appointment book for next year.  I want to take my time and not rush.  I'm thinking about what to make for Cathy, and Sarah, Cindy and Amie.  These are my girls, and i want to give them gifts from my heart.  Made or thrifted and personalized to them.  Thats my mission.

I already have an idea of what i'm doing for my kids, Lindsay, Tim and his wife Jess.  I hope they love it, and that i get it right.  I think they will.  

And the grandbabies.  Toys duh.  And clothes, and a book.  I'm thinking about audiobook for my granddaughter because she loves being read TO, but not so much reading herself.  So i'd like her to enjoy the story, in whatever way she is going to get it.  

I've even thought about reading books out loud for both of them, but i can't wrap my mind around how to do that short of an old fashioned tape cassette and tape recorder.  Wouldn't THAT be very old timey of me? LOL

TGIF

 I ran around picking up and making sure all my girly things are put away because the maintenance manager is coming sometime today to look at my bathroom vanity and dishwasher.  My rent went up again, understandable, but i've been here for 5 years and these two things would need to be replaced if they rent it out to someone else.  So why do i have to sign another year lease and not have them replaced?  

Yes, i'm signing another lease, but they don't have to know that.  I'm an excellent tenant. But this place is run by a management company so when it comes down to it, they might tell me no.  It's worth a shot.

Still the best rent around and i love my apartment.  I have good neighbors and no one bothers me except to say "hello".  Perfect.

Work.  yesterday my boss left his office and walked by me while i was having a meeting with someone i've been working with in the SOM.  That whole situation pisses me off, but I do what's expected of me.  My boss,  though, was really annoyed.  Not with me.  He hears what i'm going through with this individual.  It's frustrating, but i have gained a set of polite balls.

I need the pdf file, and excel spreadsheet that you used to do the mass emailing.  

Is that hard?

It's pretty goddamned simple.  And yet.........apparently not.  I refuse to spend hours trying to figure out what the hell someone else tried to do.  Give me what i asked for.  Two files.  The ones YOU USED.  No i will not make the changes you requested.  You go ahead and make your changes and then SEND ME TWO FILES.

If you knew how complicated this mans thoughts are, and how he talks in circles about shit i don't want or need to know (his job).....I'm protecting my ass and my reputation.  He's not evil.  He's just very disorganized and not a great communicator.  I used to listen to him going around with my old boss and now it's me that has to do it.  urgh.

I still love my job.  I just wish i could ditch the SOM the way they ditched me and still refuse to add my name to anything that is MY PROGRAM, because......of my official position.  Thats the most i can get out of my repeated attempts at clarification.  Bottom line.  I do the work.  I have one boss.  He appears to be happy with me.  I get paid.

Boom.

So the cutie on the dating site disappeared.  He either closed his account or blocked me.  boooooo.  He was so damn hot.  Just as well.  No time spent, no loss.  It's just not often that someones pictures give me that kind of response.  Dating is sucky same as always.

Went to L's house last night after work and we went for a nice long ride on his bike.  Weather was perfect, he took me through some awesome views and then we stopped for dinner at Cucoo's nest in Old Saybrook.  Sat at the bar, had a margarita and a couple of  tacos.  Then we headed back to his house and when we got off the bike i made to leave.  he's an hour away from me and it was 8pm.  He said "come inside, don't run away"....

I rolled my eyes.  We are just friends sir.  Kissy friends, yes.  but we agreed that our lives at the moment don't add up to a relationship.  Keep it light.  With some kissing.  mmmmhmmm.

Turned into a wee bit more than that, but MB put the brakes on.  Would it be nice?  Probably.  But we aren't exclusive.  And i'm not looking for a playmate, as much as i wish that was enough for me.  I'm not about to get bonded to another man who doesn't want a relationship.  Nope.  Uh Uh.  No thank you.

I WILL continue to see him.  I love riding with him.  He is great company.  And he's attractive.  I could consider more but that, would need to be talked about.  All this vague bullshit that these men try to pull while they pursue the fruits given during an actual committment........yeah, not falling for that.

I'm having fun.  All is good. 

No sleep for the wicked

 Koda had me up at 3:30am this morning.  He's been spoiling me, waiting until 4:30....but not today.  And he did't want to go back to sleep either.  He wanted to play.  And run around and make mommy feel insane.

All my fault.  I'm aware.  I need a firmer hand.  But........shit i'm tired. 

L is texted me to bring a change of clothes when i go see him tomorrow...........I replied "?".  Then he told me we were going to go for a ride if the weather was good and have dinner.  If i wore a skirt or a dress i would need a change of clothes to go for a ride.

........

He's thinking way ahead.  ehem.

I'll make it easy and wear jeans. Perfect. :)

Yesterday Mr. Too Hottie from the dating site reached out and told me he was happy i was interested, and he didn't respond right away because he's working.  I don't know what his work is.  Gave me a little thrill to hear from him.  Eww.  Relax yourself you dimwit.

Yesterday at work i had to put together this thing that a lot of important people will be working off of, and if it's not right it will screw up a bunch of stuff.  

Hows that for vague? 

Now i know what stress is,  it's not working to hard, or scrambling around, it's having the information land firmly on my head and knowing the ramifications if it's not right.  

Well, i wanted this.  Didn't I?  

Dreaming of van life and the places i will go, with different kinds of stress.

when your heart pitter pats

 They say you are supposed to run, that is your body having a nervous reaction to trauma.

Sometimes i think this stuff is such bullshit. But then again........

When i first layed eyes on D's (my ex bf of 13 years) picture, I got the pitter pats.  I immediately wanted to meet him.  It took off from there.  It ahd it's ups and downs, and then it ended.  Badly.  But now, I'm fine.  I grew from it.  

Yesterday, i'm swiping on through the dating site and a picture comes up......I felt the pitter pats.  Which, is a very nice feeling - hello pitter pats.  Nice to see you again.  I sure didn't get that feeling when i first meet Mr. Cigar LOL.  I grew into my stupidity with him.

This man, who matched with me (yeehaw!) reminds me of Mr. Tattoo.  That can be good, or that can be bad.  He has the same demeanor in his pictures.  Relaxed, nice easy smile, sparkly eyes.....extremely no question about it masculinity.....just.  sigh.  Yeah.  So i hope we connect.  If not, i can live my fantasy life because he went straight into what the men call a "spank bank".  

That was crude.  And accurate.  Not sorry.

Moving right along - i've been continuously cleaning out my home and I think it may be at a comfortable place for me now.  Easy to take care of and keep clean, not so much stuff.  Puppy pee is easy to spot.  Koda and i are still working on the potty.  Still.  

Yesterday i took a break during lunch and went to see my sweet Henry and his parents, otherwise known as my son and DIL.  Lets be honest.  I wanted my hands on that baby, and to cuddle him up, which i did for a few hours.  It was nice to spend time with the kids, the new parents, and i sympathize with their lack of sleep, and mini break downs.  I told them the things you tell new parents.  It's hard.  It's not easy.  You will lose your mind and you will get very angry sometimes.  Put Henry in the crib, where he is safe and sound, and walk away for a nice break.  Go change the laundry, go sit outside on the porch.  Go run around the yard a few laps......just take a few minutes to reset yourself.  Babies cry a lot and our nerves sometimes need a reset.

I asked them, "why do you think there is shaken baby syndrome?"  Because people snap.  Having a newborn is the hardest thing on earth and you have no control over this little tyrant who keeps you up at all hours, constantly changes his preferences, and seems to enjoy keeping you in the dark over what he wants.  

I told them infants break us.  Then we rebuild ourselves as parents.  It's all part of the transformation.  Don't fight it.  It's nature.  And honestly, they are doing so good at it!  I'm proud of these kids.  They are handling this new life and still smiling.  And crying. And not sleeping......like people have been doing since the begining of time.  They got this.

Also, I decided i'm going to harrass my daughter to come see me.  I'm starting the campaign today.  I want her and my granddaughter to come spend the day and night. Or the whole weekend.  I want them to come to grandma's house.  Period.

No more of this nonsense.  

I, am also, a PARENT.  So there.

L might come over tonight.  We have a date set for Thursday.  I think he's getting it that i'm not available at the last minute.  

got played again

 I work remotely on Friday and Mondays so i actually get double duty done.  I take calls, get work done, plan out the future week and ALSO do laundry and take Koda out for his pee walks.  

I've been trying to train him to use the big blue button i programmed to say "POTTY" next to the door.  Every time we go out, i take his paw and push the button.  He always lets me do this.  Only once did he do it on his own and i think it may have been a fluke, although i did rush right over, give him "oh what a good boy"s and take him right outside.

This morning, i had to repot my huge plant that i have on my front step.  The storm the other day knocked it over and it's pot broke.  So this morning i finally got the soil out, grabbed a new pot and went outside to repot her.  I did not take Koda.  He was miffed.

I'm out on the porch and i hear my voice "POTTY"  then "POTTY".........then "POTTY"......that little bugger was hitting the button over and over again so i would take him outside.

I died laughing.  BUT i took him outside for a pee then brought him back inside before continuing on with my task.

"Potty" "Potty" "Potty"........

again.

He thinks that button is for going outside but he hasn't yet associated it with Potty, as in GO PEE OUTSIDE.  

So he's smart, but his mama is slow to figure out this potty training business.  

ew. I need a slap upside the head.

 Seeing him on the dating site made me laugh and then the more i thought about it i got pissed.  THEN i felt bad.  

#1 I have him blocked on social media and in my phone.  He had me blocked on FB so i couldn't block him.  He unblocked me.  Thats why i could see his smug face pop up in the dating app.

#2 Spent most of today with my head twirling.  Hoping he would "match" with me.  DISgusting.  And yet, thats the truth.  

I left the house, went to the store and got some crafty items i've been thinking about for a project.  By the time i came home i had decided.  I blocked him everywhere.  That was my choice.  I didn't change my mind.  Just because HE unblocked me doesn't mean i'm getting on this ride in any way shape or form again.  I've been stressed out all day.  Fuck that.  Fuck him.

I blocked him in the dating app and i blocked him on Facebook.  That fucker always leaves a door open and this time he's going to get it slammed shut in his face.

Here's the thing.  He is charismatic.  He knows how to sell himself.  His whole profile is a bunch of utter bullshit.  He sounds like such a nice, sweet man.  Ha!  I wish.  HE WISHES.  Saying it, doesn't make it true.  

I'm paying attention.  I'm feeling the feelings and i'm letting them pass through me instead of grabbing on and wishing it could be different.  That profile alone proves he has no intention of growing, healing, fixing his fucked up head.  He's on to find the next victim.

This time, it's not going to be me.  

There.  Now i can go get shit done.