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Planning is a PITA


It is so HARD to get a bunch of people together for dinner, let alone trying to plan a weekend away together.

You want to make sure everyone can attend but you need help to do it..... People need to make arrangements around the event if they want to go.  If not, see you at the next one.  Or....you plan the next one and we'll all show up.

Is that awful or is that the Capricorn in me?  

A friend is celebrating his big 50th birthday and his wife has rented a cabin in Vermont and asked me to invite everyone - We usually do this tag-team approach to situations.  It's like herding sheep sometimes. 

 If I was invited to a free weekend away (not all can afford to pay and that part I get) with my friends (which I have been many many many times over the years) I would jump on that.  There are ways to make your presence useful without having to worry about the expense, and literally no-one cares.  We just want to be together. 

A couple of years ago we all rented a place on a lake with an indoor pool and sauna for a long weekend.  It was......amazing.  We did it in the winter so we could sit in the jacuzzi and watch it snow outside.......We had a ton of food, we all cooked, drank, ate gummies, and had a great time.  We all cooked together, cleaned up together, and laughed our silly asses off all weekend.  Ever since then we've been talking about doing it again.



The sound system and lighting in this pool room were incredible.....I spent most of my time here.


Anyways - making plans, moving forward, carrying on with life.  With a goddamn smile.  Who needs a man?  Luxury item.  

People think I'm crazy but I'm flying to Florida next month for a long weekend on a beach that doesn't hurt my feet.  I cannot WAIT to go relax and it's kind of crazy that I have to get on a plane to do that......but it works.  A nice change of scenery. I will be getting some more ink while I'm there as well. 

Also, looks like I'm going to Cape Cod for another long weekend with two old friends from high school.  

I've also been thinking about picking a place and just going by myself.  I haven't decided yet but it has occurred to me that being in a relationship and doing this with someone special is not going to happen any time soon.  I'm always the third wheel and I think i'd like to experience being solo on purpose.

This years goal was to get a passport, which I've never had, and we are halfway through the year.  I better get on it.  A bucket list item of mine is to live for a year in Ireland, which will have to wait until I retire, and a trip to Tibet.  If I start planning now I should be able to do both by the time I'm 80.  This year, I'll keep it simple.  Maybe I'll finally go to Niagra Falls on the Canadian side, which I hear is better.  I've never been on EITHER side.  

It's about time I do that.



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