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In the streets

" last night I went out with a man who has been asking me out for 2 years. I was very honest about not feeling that way about him and he insisted that he just wanted us to get to know each other better. throughout the night he kept making reference to getting more intimate. I am far from a prude but I am so tired of this. literally anyone can get sex. I want the whole package. I have to be able to get to know the man to see if I even like him. The dates that I have gone on always seem to be like they're on a mission to get into bed. I told him I want to date like it's 1986 where people took the time to get to know each other, Go out on dates, have things escalate slowly.... no one wants to put that kind of time in anymore. I think I'm done."


I posted the message above in the 50+ and single group on facebook. The response was a LOT of comments from women saying they are experiencing the same thing. We are all tired, bored and disappointed with men's behavior. We are done accepting it.

There was a time when I fell for the "we aren't kids, we are adults" bullshit. There was a time when I told myself that I didn't want to get involved either, that I just wanted some short term entertainment so I didn't completely lose my sex drive. Both times passed quickly. I'm not sure how these men are finding it satisfying at all. It gets really old, really quick. It gets boring. Going from one person to the other without getting to know them aside from carnally .......what is the point to that? Conquest? How is it conquest when from what I've been reading in this group is more of a giving up? Women feel like they have to play this game to get the man and yet.......they aren't getting the man.

Men get really defensive when I or any woman "overgeneralizes" and the funny thing is many men in the group are actually supportive and tell us there are good guys out here looking for what we are looking for. In my case, they live SO FAR away and it does matter to me.

It's the same old thing. Constantly. Then I watched a video that said you attract what you seek, so if you are tired of getting men from the streets, stop putting yourself out there for men in the streets. Simple.

Right?


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