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 There is something wrong with me.

I get taken out for a nice dinner, share a bottle of wine and good conversation.......handsome guy, has his act together, funny.  Nothing wrong.  Even a sick sense of humor......

And .....i feel nothing. 

I mean, i had fun. I like him. 

Maybe it was the talk about all his money and how much he's worth and all his toys and investments.

When i tell you i'm not materialistic, i mean it.  Those things are all great but they can all be gone in an instant.  And they can't give you a full body hug when your world is falling apart......as a matter of fact, it might be BECAUSE of all those things that he is never around because he has to work to keep it. 

Or i'm just stupid. 

Heres' the thing.  Those are HIS things.  Because of that, he may feel he has the upper hand......and without it, he may not be much of a man.   Or maybe hes an incredible man because he's earned all these things with good choices and hard work.

Can go either way.

I honestly didn't think he was interested in me beyond our dinner last night.  It was cold as hell and when we left the restaurant i came as close to i can to a run to my car.  I said "give me a hug, i'm cold" and didn't leave any time or question about anything more than that before i jumped into my car.

He told me to let him know when i got home.  Nice.

He called me as i was walking in the door.  

And we proceeded to have another full out conversation before we were both yawning so much talk was impossible.

Okay?

He texted me early - as he does.  When i woke up there's a message - which i honestly didn't expect.  We go back and forth, i say i'll call when i'm out of the shower.

I am not a morning person.  I don't like talk in the morning.  But he's funny and he gets me laughing. 

So strange because i don't know what's going on here.

I don't know if i even want to go out with him again.

I always find a reason not to date a good guy - and this one is a lot.  He's no pushover.  He's a successful business owner and definelty a guys guy.  He has multiple motorcycles, collects expensive items, 4 sleds, home.......all the "stuff".......

But would he treat me like i matter.

Is he even interested?  I can hear my friends in my head "if he wasn't interested he wouldn't keep texting and calling".

This one is a question.  

We'll see what happens.  

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