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 With some quiet down time to think, and do things around my house I realized that i skipped dating Bill.  We went from a few dates to drama, break ups (when we weren't even really together) and time apart.  We haven't dated for long.  We kinda went straight into relationship. 

I did.  He is dating me.  i'm in a hurry.  I want answers and all the work done already.  The work it takes to get to know someone.  That is what i have been hit with.  Right between the eyes.  

and yesterday i spent the day with him.  I went to his house late morning and we went to the store to pick out new dog food and deer food.  Tractor supply.  Wooooo.  I'm so used to shopping alone that i've forgotten its more fun with someone.  Then we went to his shop so he could finish up some billing quick - and did i mention, i had started day drinking.  he stopped.  I continued.  I was very happy.  

Inwhile he worked i set up Eddie and Cindy - yep.  I asked Eddie and Cindy both if they might be interested and both were agreeable so i connected them and told them it was up to them from here out.  I told Cindy i had been out to lunch with Eddie and he had broken up with the woman he was seeing.  She seems happy.  So does he.  Good luck!  All the conversing i did on the phone, and voice to text messaging and the fact that i went out to lunch with Eddie is what Bill heard.  

I am not going to apologize for my friend taking me out to lunch for my birthday.  And that is all we are.  We didn't talk about Bill, i certainly didn't trash him.  At least Eddie did something for my BIRTHDAY.  Still pissy about that.  No gift, no card, no nothing from Bill.  And i've asked.  He ignores it like he doesn't hear me.

mmmhmm.

I'm not going the rest of my life not being celebrated by the man im with.  So he better get on the stick if he wants me to consider long term.  This means something to me, therefor, it should mean something to him.

Also, i'm not supposed to day drink with him anymore because I get dingy.  And he gets annoyed.  He is very bossy.  And he yells sometimes.  Then i look at him, with my eyebrows raised and wait for him to finish and just look at him.  Talk nice to me buddy.  Yelling doesn't do shit to motivate me.  

It is who he is.  He yells.  He has a quick temper and he likes things the way he likes them.  I also yell but only when i'm really pissed off.  I shouldn't be getting pissed off.

Anyhow, we did spend a nice day together.  And today i went over to his house, he cooked me dinner, i brought him berries from the grocery store, and we played with the dogs a little then I came home.  It's nice to live pretty close to him so we can do these short visits.  And he feeds me steak.

And gives me a nice hello and goodbye kiss. 

But we are dating MB.  We aren't a couple yet.  We just threw ourselves into the deep end without learning to swim with each other.  So now we are.    I know he's not happy about the cruise, but i'm not cancelling.  If we hadn't broken up, i never would have said i'd go, but we did and i did.  Maybe when i come back and he knows Eddie is my FRIEND only, we will be able to move forward.

Not too far away.  And the puppy arrives on Saturday.  I will get to meet her before i go on vacation.

iwork tomorrow.  I'll be glad to go back.

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