I may have mentioned in a previous blog that i am a member of a facebook group called "are we dating the same man?" People have different reactions to groups like this. My reason for being a member is because i occasionally go out on dates. I usually do a brief google search to make sure the gentleman is who he says he is. I don't go into depth. I just need to know he's real. This group allows women to post about men they have had difficulty with, or have been scared by. OR the big one is asking "any tea?" when someone is dating a guy and wants to know who else is dating him.
This site has caught married men, abusive men, cheaters, scammers (one was on the news for stealing lots of money from women) etc. It's the internets answer to making it JUST as easy to find out who is lying to you as it is to cheat.
I'm old school. I don't allow other people to make my decisions, however, when more than 10 women are describing horrible experiences with one man......i am going to skip that man. However anyone feels about it, this site will be used by the user, to fit whatever that users need is. I have seen men i've dated pop up with situations described that are not surprising. I have a friend i "dated" a long while back, we still stay in contact, he was shared. There were tons of comments about what a great guy he is, but don't expect anything long term. Spot on. Women are basically TALKING to each other about men in common they have dated.
And that pisses off a lot of men.
I also belong to an "over 50 and dating" group on facebook. I love it. People from all over the country chime in with dating stories, questions, funny memes.....Its supposed to be a dating site but no one lives close to me that i would be interested in dating, and it's like that for a lot of us. But we talk to each other, pick on each other, and support each other. Men and women alike. It's been a very positive experience and the administrators that run it are very much involved. No politics allowed.
I've made "friends" with several people in the group and may eventually meet them in person. I've done it before.
Yesterday i posted about said "are we dating the same man" in the "over 50 and dating" group. Asking if there was a male version of this group? Kind of joking but really asking. It brought out the worst in men. Some HATE this idea of women talking about "men" i.e. possibly them, without their knowing or controlling the information being shared. Boo. Hoo. And they were very explicit in how they felt about women who participate in this. Some women accused women who use the group as "scorned" and "vindictive"......yet, have never actually been IN the group to know what happens there.
I don't want to get into a big defensive of the group, either group, because there is always someone who has a problem with something. To me, it's informative however, i have the ability to use my cognitive skills and determine if one woman is slamming an ex, or if a guy is really a potential problem. I find that men with anger issues, or a lack of respect for others, particularly women.......they usually call themselves out pretty quickly.
Here is what I woke up to this morning:
"Stop being bitter on a single site as nobody wants part of that negativity and crap you are spilling, which is probably why you're singe and I'm sure you probably always will be. I don't have any problem dating, but definitely not some liberal whiny bitter "woman" (for lack of words I can't use on here) that thinks she's a private investigator and has to research everybody and i hope every guy sees who you are and run very far as nobody wants someone that creates drama"
First, if you are going to try an insult me, check "you" grammar. It makes more of an impact.
Second, this is exactly the type of man i am trying to avoid.
Third, wouldn't be surprised if he is worried he may be showcased on a site like this in his region. So much anger directed at a woman he doesn't know? Looks like fear to me.
Fourth, I don't talk politics (no one does or is allowed to in the singles group) yet, it is very obvious to me he thinks any woman who dares "talk back" or look out for her best interest is a liberal.
Fifth, the day i shut up you can throw the dirt on my casket.
My response to him:
"Some of us operate in society politely and others don't. Not everybody is out to spread hate and anger because of a difference of opinion. If your words are supposed to hurt me, you have failed. Thanks for calling yourself out."
And then he blocked me.
There may be a God.
Facebook drama. who cares. However, this is how people are communicating now and i have no doubt that he feels justified in attempting to belittle a woman who thinks differently and isn't willing to get down in the dirt to prove her point.
ANYWAY- Last night our goats name was Charlie and he was young and full of piss and vinegar. I can't imagine doing yoga around him, but they also do Yoga and Goats...I will pass on that. We went out to eat after and it was like 2 years hadn't passed since the last time we had seen each other. I love these ladies. If i have to be single for the rest of my life, but i get to keep all my family and friends......so be it. I will live a happy and full life. Because if the men out there for the picking are even remotely like the one that went off on me yesterday? Hard Pass.
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