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Cute guy from Our Time

 I have an account on Our Time that i continuously forget about.  I don't pay, will never pay - but once in a while i check if i've gone into my email and seen i've gotten a message.  I don't always go into my personal email......so....not real good on keeping up.

Last week, i was talking to two men from site.  One asked me out on Monday for Thursday (last week) and then i heard nothing from him until the time we were supposed to meet at 6pm that he was there.  I didn't stand him up.  I responded.  Next.

The other man i was talking to sends a few texts a day, not too much conversation- and then at night longer more real conversations.  I almost blocked him (okay yes, i've started blocking like the rest of the world) when he said he "was gonna" ask me out for this Thursday BUT (there's my block finger moving) he has dentist appointment and it probably won't be good.

First, i'm so glad he followed that up with a valid reason.  I hate the "i was gonna" bullshit.  Call it an "ick".  Like Carlos telling me he is gonna mail a gift he bought for me 2 years ago, asking for my address and zip code and............I guess he "was gonna".  Thats just one recent example.  

Gentlemen, someone should tell them, "i was gonna" DOES NOT COUNT.  It's actually annoying and childish.  Do what you say you are going to do, and better yet say nothing until you DO IT.  

Speaking of. i never mailed that puzzle back to Marine man.  I need to do that.  ~rolling my eyes~

Okay, so cute guy then asks me on Wednesday for Thursday and i remind him of dentist.  Dentist cancelled appointment.  I figure, what have i got to loose?  Okay, i will meet him after work.

Yesterday he texted me to confirm in the morning (Imagine THAT?) and continue to text throughout the day per usual.  Just a note here and there.  Nothing heavy.  You know, showing interest.  

Now..........i've been talking and texting with Mr. Cigar.  Not seeing. Since i refused to go to his shop he hasn't asked to see me again and I did tell him to drop my key off on Friday but that is more of a joke between us, not a real invitation.  I don't want my damn key, could care less.  

We talked about that key.  It freaked him out when i had attached it to the leather key ring that came with his leather cigar pouch that i gave him.  Whats funny is that it never occurred to me that it would mean anything other than "please stop in and feed my cat while i'm on a cruise i've been talking about for the past 2 months) I certainly wasn't asking him to move in with me.  WTF.  

Anyways, he is full of all kinds of stories and explanations.  I told him i was going on a date after work and he told me he doesn't get jealous.  Okay.  But he called me at 4 and stayed on the phone until my date arrived and then texted me eyes every half hour.

The cute guy arrived on time, we know i was going to be there early and would meet him inside.  He told me he was on his way, and that he had arrived before he even came in the bar.  Nice.  He looks like his 2 pictures on his profile.  He's very cute.  And has a lot of hair.  Okay so he looks good.  Then we start talking about what we want to order for drinks, i say i'd like an old fashioned, he likes that, and he orders one for both of us.

So far, so good.  We get to talking, and then laughing, and then he orders apps after consulting with what i like.......and more drinks.  We talk about a lot of fun getting to know you things, even teasing each other and sometimes touching each other unnecessarily....there's a vibe.  We are both having a good time.  We sit there for 4 hours.  Finally it's time to go, he runs to bathroom while i unfold my legs that have fallen asleep, stand up and put on my coat.  I catch him checking me out as he comes back from the bathroom, as i check HIM out.  Neither of us appeared displeased.  We walk out to the cars (parked next to each other) and we talk for two minutes and he gives me a very nice hug and kisses me.  Not a big sloppy sex kiss, a nice soft kiss on the lips that landed and took right off.  We smiled and i got in my car, he went to his.......and that was that.

Until we had to text each other a few times on our separate rides home.  And now we are talking on Saturday afternoon about what to do on Saturday night.

So i'd say we liked each other enough to meet again.  

I like him fine for a first date.  Cute, polite, showed interest in me and kissed me nicely. Oh and said to drive safe and text when i got home, but we texted all the way home anyways. 

Voice to text for those thinking i'm breaking laws.

Not going to project thoughts on either man.  Well, I know i will always be pulled to Mr. Cigar, that he will always be in the back of my head because he doesn't allow me to forget him.  BUT that doesn't mean i can trust him.  I know i can't.  And i know what a life with a man you can't trust feels like.  No thank you.  

He hasn't ever shown me we can be a couple that lasts.

And that is what i want.  The whole point to dating at all.  

So anyways. Good date, feeling good about where me and Mr. Cigar are at for the moment.   

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