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It is what it is.

 This morning i woke up and looked at my phone expecting to see a message.

Because no matter how much we say we don't need it, we get used to it.  Maybe even look forward to it.

Nothing.

Fine.  He will call or text me this morning, as he usually does.

Nothing.

Do you think i reached out?  I did not.

I refuse to lead.  I refuse to check.  I refuse to be put in the situation where I expect from someone who has told me not to.

If he isn't choosing you, you aren't in a relationship.  Or the beginning of one.  

A man who is interested, behaves interested.

Consistency .....it's such an easy word, yet such a difficult task for someone who "doesn't know".

And i'm all set with ambiguity.

I'm growing tired of this attachment.  Or maybe it's bored.  

He's a great guy.  That doesn't make him a great guy for me.  He is showing me that he will be a lot of work.

I invited him to attend a gathering of friends tomorrow night.  His answer, "I will think about it" was what they call a "soft no"......and that could be for multiple reasons that at this point are none of my business or concern.  I'm attending, I invited him to share an evening with a few of my friends, and he has not spoken of it since.  Nor have I.

So there we have it.  I've expressed interest by answering his calls, responding to his texts, and inviting him to my home, (declined) and out for a night with friends. (declined)

He has offered me phone calls, and texts.

yes.  I'm bored now. 

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