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There are times when I have nothing to say.

Those are usually happy times.

Nothing swirling around in my mind that I need to sort out or organize into understanding is a peaceful place to be.

I love my peace.  It's taken me a long time to find it.  Yet, here i am, getting involved with chaos again.

Is it worth it?

Is he worth it?

The things that come out of his mouth sometimes...... People close to me think the same of me.  It can be endearing,  sometimes hurtful, but usually accurate.

Yesterday, i let him i know i didn't like a certain situation at all and i couldn't have NOT said it.  I could have just ignored it, let it go, not address it.......like i used to.  Always with fear that me having an opinion or a feeling about something would end up with me single.

But i have grown to love single.  And i have learned that men who can't handle my thoughts or opinions aren't worthy of my time.  I'm in this too.  And if something makes me unhappy as a participant in this relationship i have a not only the right, but the responsibility to speak up.

Correct it, or dont.  Thats on him.  I did my part.  He understands my feelings on it.  

I would expect the same of him, and he has been very open about the fact that my lack of coordination is literally dangerous and he has been encouraging me to walk more, strengthen myself, and eat better.

Which i was already doing before i met him.........however, his support, and interest...is very motivating. 

Work is so slow at the moment.......i'm down to the scrunge work just to get through the day.  This doesn't happen often but when it does, the day is so much longer and there is no feeling of satisfaction in doing a good days work.

Tomorrow will be better.


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