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Last minute vacation

 Was supposed to go see the band DIRT that i follow on Friday, the 26th, but a stupid snow storm ruined it.  Knowing Bill would be busy for days I packed my laundry basket (which is much more user friendly than 10 different bags) grabbed Miyagi and headed out to Milford for the weekend. 

As soon as i got there they put me in their car and brought me over to Jen's mothers house.  Without going into a lot of detail, the family is clearing out the house, which was a hoard house, and it's emotional for Jen in a lot of ways that aren't my story to tell.  She has a LOT on her plate.  She said she wanted me to look through some jewelry and i was all about it.

The family has been through the house multiple times, a lot of things have already left or been thrown out.  The jewelry.......was a small bedrooms worth, and i'm probably underestimating.  To say it could fill a jewelry store is an understatement.  AND thats only what was left.

Jens family isn't into jewelry, fashion or makeup.  Or if they are, only to a small extent.  The intention was to literally throw everything away that was left.  Or drop it off at Savers, a thrift store.  I took a little peak and that was it.  No way in hell are you "dropping this off" somewhere.  Theres gold in them thar hills!!!  So I told Doug to load it all up in the truck, boxes and boxes filled with jewelry, and we took it all back to their house.

I went through EVERY SINGLE piece of jewelry, which had zero rhyme or reason to it.....there was not specific taste, she just ordered everything apparently.  And she had skinny fingers, just like I do.  And the majority of rings fit me.

HEAVEN.

BUT.  I talked to Jen.  Told her to sell this stuff.  She said she wanted nothing to do with it.  So much of it was brand new, never worn.  Costume jewelry, yes, but if you've ever shopped at Macy's you know that can be almost as expensive as genuine gems.  So i went through and sorted it all out, because it was all mixed in with each other.  Friday night i stayed up till 1am, then their daughter came home from work and suggested i might want to go to bed and get sleep.  Woke up Saturday and sorted until we went out to a few stores and spent the day out of the house.  Came home, started sorting.  Stayed up till 11pm because all this had to be done before the grandchildren came home Sunday morning.  

Sunday morning i got up early (as usual) and moved all the piles into huge bowls, then into plastic baggies as "lots", took pictures, priced and got it all sorted away.  Now Doug will sell them on facebook marketplace, except for the jewelry i put in a separate baggie that i believe should be seen by a jeweler. I took the rest of it home for myself, as was the original plan.

They want nothing to do with any of it.  I tried to talk Kate, their daughter into taking stuff.  Nope.  I brought home so much jewelry i will never have to buy another pair of earrings again during my lifetime, or rings, or necklaces brooches or bracelets........i have hit the actual jackpot.  I love jewelry, and have never felt that spending money on it was something i should do.  I have some pieces, but, THIS?  This is craziness.

Monday morning we got up, took the train into the city and met up with my daughter and granddaughter to go see the christmas tree at Rockefeller Center which i've never done.  We wanted to go to the toy store but the line was literally around the block to get in.  Everywhere was insane.  So many people on vacation and we didn't think of that......because , we are on vacation, duh.

We had reservations at Carmines in Times Square and even with the reservations we waited an hour before we got a table.  To say it was packed.......I cannot describe how many people were crushed in waiting for tables.  

The city stresses me out.  BUT i did really well considering.  I was a happy camper.

We ordered so much food and all the while i'm adding it up in my head because my intention is to pay.  This is my thank you to my friends and family for all they do for me.  My daughter had the exact same idea, as did Jen.  They both got huge christmas bonuses, and reminded me that I did not.  They dismissed me entirely as if they could not hear me, and Doug and Jen won.  They paid.

For my birthday present.

I am seriously overwhelmed with love and gratitude for the way i am treated and valued by them.  Both my friends and my family.  I can't NOT see the love they feel for me.

And then there's Bill.  Heard from him very little as he was dealing with the storm work and the aftermath of not sleeping.  We did stay in contact but nothing like we usually do.  I felt like i had been forgotten by him, but i know this is his business.  I enjoyed my time with friends and didn't worry about it.  He told me he doesn't want to call me when i'm away, that i'm with my friends and i should enjoy them.  

I'm thinking he might break up with me right before i go on the cruise, but i hope not.  Can't control it.  I'm going on that damn cruise come hell or high water.  He was invited multiple times.  Its his choice not to come.  I think though, that i will leave my phone on airplane mode while i'm away and not expect to hear from him, or contact him for the week.

I don't want to do that.  But, that's what is coming i think. I can hope that it's my  negative side, or experience talking and that i'm proven wrong.  Either way, i'm going. 

Tomorrow is my birthday and it's going to snow. He is going to be preoccupied- it's his business.  I'm okay with it.  I wanted a man that is invested in his career and he is.  Thats the price.  I will see him at midnight though.......he doesn't know it yet, but i will find him if i have to and go get my new years kiss.  It's been a long time since i've had that and he's giving me a big wet kisser to start the new year off with!  Bet.

I will be surprised if he celebrates my birthday - but i secretly hope he does something.  Just the thought.  I have all that i need and most of what i want........it's more about him making an effort which he did do for Christmas.  No expectations here.  

Right now i am pleasantly sleepy and my body is starting to relax after being gone four days - i'm so happy to be in my space again, as much as i love going to Milford.  That is my home away from home.  Uber eats is here, i'm gonna eat and take a nap.  Happy lady. 


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